#LadiesOnly: 5 Wrong Methods Of Asking A Nigerian Guy Out

Should women be encouraged to ask guys out if they really like them?

Nigerian men are proud men and sometimes do not appreciate a lady taking the bold step to come “toast” them especially in the presence of their friends. Some of them consider these type of women too bold for comfort or cheap. Both of which do not count if they girl really means it or if you like her at first sight.

However, to women trying to ask guys out, you don’t have to it like these:

1. Hit on him when he’s in a committed relationship

This one could work out well for you… but do you want it to? It’ll also tell you a lot about him. Either he’s not interested, or he’s willing to cheat on whoever his current girlfriend or wife is. Eventually, that might be you someday.

2. Play hard to get

This is ridiculous on the girl’s part. Don’t go after a guy and when he shows some sign of interest, you start drifting away. He will think you are being stupid and/or shady. It just makes you look like you don’t like him. To be fair, there’s a difference between teasing him a bit and just ignoring him and making it seem like there’s no hope. Those differences should be obvious. If they’re not obvious, then never do this.

3. Don’t second guess yourself

This is it. You might not have a lot of experience taking the initiative, but don’t worry. Just be yourself, the magic was inside you all along, etc. If he’s going to say “yes” it doesn’t really matter what you do anyways. Believe that he’s going to say yes. Because that what guys always think when they ask girls out. But more importantly, you believe in yourself and go for what you want.

4. Get a friend to do it for you

This is a technique that belongs in middle school. At best, even if he’s saying yes, it puts him in an awkward place because he has no idea who you really are or what you look like. It feels decidedly immature and he could go for your friend instead — since she’s the bolder one!

5.  Don’t do anything just to impress him

Don’t ask him out snowboarding if you’ve never gone for one before. Don’t ask him for romantic movie date night when you love Sci Fis. You will die. Just do dinner and drinks or something. Or, tell him you always wanted to go and ask him if he wants to try too. Just don’t pretend to be someone you aren’t.